When we first introduced the idea of
having a Stephen Ministry in our congregation people had some questions.
Such questions were welcomed and I
was glad people asked them.
One person in our congregation said
to me, “Pastor why do we need to take a class to help people shouldn’t we just
be doing this anyway.”
It was a legitimate question.
And one I want to answer this morning
as a way to start my sermon.
Yes of course all of us as people of
God, as disciples of Jesus Christ, can show Christian love and care for someone
else going through a difficult time.
I know that all of you do this for
each other all the time.
Someone looses a job, gets sick, gets
divorced, or has a life crushing event.
I know that you are there for each
other to offer comfort and support.
A Stephen minister is someone who has
been trained to offer one on one Christian support and love to someone who is
need of a listening non-judgmental ear.
What sets a Stephen Minister apart is
that they have been trained to do one very important thing.
They have been trained to put aside
their own agendas, opinions, and theologies.
They have been trained to simply be
there for someone else.
This would seem like an easy thing to
do.
But I can assure you that it is not.
Most of what we say to people in time
of crisis is based on our own internal stuff.
Just as an example, when someone dies
we often don’t know what to say to comfort someone else.
Out of our own anxiety we often will
say something that sounds good.
It comes from a somewhat good place
of wanting to say something comforting.
What I have heard from people who are
hearing those things is that it is not always helpful.
A woman who lost her husband recently
wrote a blog post on what she has learned since her husband’s death.
She said, “A friend of mine with
late-stage cancer told me that the worst thing people could say to him was “It
is going to be okay.”
That voice in his head would scream,
How do you know it is going to be okay?
Do you not understand that I might die?
I learned this past month what he was
trying to teach me.
Real empathy is sometimes not
insisting that it will be okay but acknowledging that it is not.”
What that person might need is simply
someone to listen to them, sit in that uncomfortable place of it not being ok
and that it is not going to get better.
What Stephen Minister have been trained
to do is to put aside that need to say something good and healing and instead
to focus on what the person who is living through the difficult time needs to
say, and express in that moment.
Even if what the person express is
uncomfortable or not what we think is the right thing to think or say.
And this is an extraordinary thing in
our day.
Because everyone seems to have an
opinion on what everyone else is doing.
Everyone seems to want to judge
others for what they are doing.
Everyone wants to speak first and
listen second if at all.
But Stephen Ministers are trained to
listen actively and attentively, they are trained to use our Christian
traditions only for the benefit of those they are trying to help.
I think what they do is driving Satan
crazy.
(I want to stop for a second and add
a disclaimer here.
If you have heard me preach you will
know that I do not talk a lot about Satan.
The reasons for this are too many to
go into here.
But Just real quick to me Satan is
not a dude in a red suit with a pitchfork and horns.
Satan is the name that we give evil.
Just as God is the name that we give
to what is good.
Since it is in the Gospel this
morning I am going to be using the word Satan to talk about evil in the world.)
Satan does not like when we do good
in the world.
Satan does not like when we care for each other, love each other.
Satan does not like when we care for each other, love each other.
Satan does not like when we listen to
each other’s problems with a non-judgmental ear.
What Satan wants more than anything
is for us to selfish, and me-centered.
We know this because Jesus wants us
to be other-centered.
Jesus wants us to listen to each
other.
Jesus wants us to love each other.
Jesus wants us to judge not.
What Jesus says in his parable this
morning is that in order to go out and do good we have to tie up Satan.
We have to get a hold of our agendas,
opinions, and theology so that we can go out and plunder Satan’s house.
We can ruin evil by being about what
other people want, not what we want.
And that is what Kate, Diana, and
Larry have been doing for the last 6 months is learning to tie up Satan.
To put their needs on hold so they
can plunder Satan’s house by going out and loving other people.
And I can assure you that even with
all of that training that at times they will still not be able to stop
themselves.
There will be times when their own
agendas, opinions, and theologies will sneak in.
But that is ok.
I know that you all want to do a
really good job.
I know that you will take this task
very seriously.
I also do not expect any of you to be
perfect.
But what I do expect is that the Holy
Spirit will be in your work.
I do expect that you will do some
plundering of Satan’s house.
That God through you will cure the
disease of despair.
I know that you are going to have
some wonderful Holy Spirit moments where God is going to surprise you in how
much God helps others through you.
Because What Jesus tells us this
morning in our Gospel reading from Mark is that the only thing that helps us do
good in the world is the Holy Spirit.
That if through our work someone who
feels alone is comforted, or someone who feels unloved feels loved, or someone
who is sad feels joy, or someone who doesn’t feel heard gets heard.
If we are able to accomplish any good
it is because God has been involved.
Because what we often forget is that
this is not about us.
We are not the subject of the
sentence.
We are not what make good things
happen.
This is about the good news of Jesus
Christ.
This is about how God brings healing
and wholeness into people’s lives.
I say that this morning to you three
so that you will know that you are never alone in this work.
You have each other.
You have supervision with Jim.
Most important God is with you in
this work.
As it says on the first page of the
Stephen Ministry training manual, “Jesus will be with you as you take each step
in this journey.
In fact, Jesus will go ahead of you
to prepare the way for your ministry.
You will never make a caring visit,
listen to a person’s story, or say a prayer without Jesus-your companion, your
guide, your strength, and your inspiration.”
Kate, Diana, and Larry you have spent
50 weeks tying up Satan, now it is time to go out and do some plundering to
listen, love, and care.
These are all things that are healing
for the world and all things that Satan hates.
Today we all hear that call to
plunder, to rob Satan of the things that he loves, despair, hatred, loneliness,
selfishness.
And to give the world the things that
God loves grace, mercy, a listening ear, selflessness, joy, peace.
We know that as we leave here God is
with us all in this work, and this day especially you three.
May you have joy in your plundering
of Satan.
Amen
Amen
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