The Person Next To Me In The Pew

This past week I spent time with friends who were visiting from Wisconsin.

One of the things we did was to go to the North End in Boston.

We visited the Old North Church which is famous for lighting lamps to warn Paul Revere “One if by land, two if by sea” on his famous ride.

If you never have been to the Old North Church it is interesting not just because of the significant part it played in our countries history but also because it has box pews.

Box pews segment the church into compartments defined by five foot high walls and are large enough to accommodate an entire family with benches along two of the walls.

In colonial times you would buy a pew for you and your family, and only people that bought a pew could worship in that church.

As I was walking in a man behind me said, “If I had my own box I might go to church more often.”

It was meant as a joke.

But behind it is a truth.
We would all like our own pew.

We would like church just fine if it wasn’t for all these other people around me messing up my time with God.

You know that family that sits next to you with the kid who is too loud.

Or that old person who sits next to you and gives you dirty looks.

Or maybe that middle aged man who sings off key way too loud.

Or maybe that person who wants the bathroom to be pink, and well you just can’t stand a pink bathroom.

What kind of person is she?

This doesn’t even get at other more substantial issues that get on our nerves about going to Church.

This week we shift, or maybe swing, in a different direction as we continue to talk about the letter to the Ephesians.

The last three weeks have been about things that are up in the atmosphere.

We have been talking about what God means to us.

We have been talking about what God does for us as the church through Jesus Christ and the Spirit.

Today the rubber hits the road.

Today we start talking about what it means to live out those things.

What it means to express the in our lives the unity of God, the love of God.

It is interesting to me that we start this part of Ephesians with a discussion about how the Church is supposed to interact and be with each other.

We don’t start on the how we are to be in the world, how we are supposed to spread the message of Christianity.

But it starts with how we are to be with each other.

How we interact with the person in the seat next to us.

That person in the seat next to us, the person who is maybe not like us, who does not act the way, we would or we would want them to.

That person we are to bear with in love.

We are to be concerned about their well being, not ours, because we are supposed to be one called together in unity.

We are one body.

We are part of this body and the head is Jesus.

All of us have our parts to play.

We have all been given gifts that are to be offered for the good of the whole.

But let us talk together this morning in real terms of what that means.

I want to share some stories with you all of times when I have noticed that the church has fallen short.

I will not use names to protect the innocent, nor will I tell you what church these things happened in.

One person told me that they didn’t attend worship because there was a child in the pew with special needs that made too much noise.

It would distract this person from their worship.

If we don’t come together and bear one another in love than you are not really worshiping that is the point of worship!

One person told me that they didn’t want to go to worship because they only had “old people” in church.

And that “old people” are hypocritical and judgmental.

It was interesting because that comment to me seemed judgmental.

And it was hypocritical to say you don’t like being judged but then turn around and judge others.

We have to learn not to talk about each other except in ways that “promotes the body’s growth in building itself up in love.”

Another person told me that they didn’t want to go to worship because they didn’t like the hymns that were selected.

We all have personal preferences, but it might be that the hymn you dislike is someone else favorite.

We have to not just think about what we like, but also consider what others like.

We have to not just think about what we want, but what is beneficial to others as well.

When we do this we bear each other in love.

The purpose of all of this, the purpose of worship is not our satisfaction.

It is not that my needs are met.

Although many people think that is what worship is for.

They think it is for only them.

But the purpose is for us to grow in our knowledge of the Son of God.

To grow in maturity, to no longer be children.

And anyone who has children or raised children will tell you that what kids care about 99% of the time is themselves.

They care about their needs and very little about the needs of anyone else.

And what it means to be a parent is to teach your children humility, patience, gentleness so that they can begin to care about others in the world.

For people of faith all of that starts in baptism.

Baptism is the start of a relationship with God.

And it is about our growing in that relationship.

Vanessa will be baptized today.

And what we pray is that she will continue to grow in her knowledge of Christ.

In her baptism she will promise to continue that relationship by learning the creed, Ten Commandments, Lord’s Prayer.

By hearing and studying God’s word, receiving communion.

So that she will learn to proclaim Christ in and through her life.

That she will be bringing her gifts to the body of body of Christ.

And by being part of this body of Christ.

She will be baptized into the same baptism that we all have.

One baptism, one lord, one hope, one Spirit.

We are one together.

And we will bear with her in love all that life has to bring.

I often think about that promise that we all make at a baptism.

As the body of Christ today we promise to “support Vanessa and pray for her in her new life in Christ”.

That is a big promise to make, because we simply don’t know what will happen with the rest of her life.

We don’t know what kind of trouble she might get in or what kind of tragedies will come upon her.

We don't know what kind of person will end up sitting in the pew next to us.

And yet today we confess our unity in knowing Jesus Christ.

Today we confess that as the body of Christ, we will use our gifts to promote love amongst us.

We will bear with each other in love.

We will not demand that we have our own pew, but we will gladly share it with whoever God calls to sit next to us on any given Sunday.

We will be one with each other.

That is what we are called to do.

We are called to love each other, because that is what the Church is all about.

That is what Christ has taught us, and cared for us.

Vanessa welcome to the body of Christ.

May we all bear each other in love as we grow in our knowledge of Jesus Christ so that we may be one.

Amen